After all, conditional or not, love is love. The closure to F4T (Food 4 Thought) today, don’t inflict expectations on others’ love for you and- I wouldn’t say don’t give conditional love. Realize I could TLDR I don’t like it when people start expecting from me LOL haha but after all that…. Ok I can’t really recall the actual thing but it’s something like that. There’s this phrase that goes something along the lines of: You could lend someone something for 100 days but when you stop lending them for 1 day, you become selfish. Understandably, when my love becomes an expectation of me, I feel indignant. So usually, if we aren’t parents/ not giving love to our children, we would ‘do’ conditional love. Of course, that’s a generalization but let’s leave it at that assumption. They just want their children to be happy. Most parents give their children without expecting anything in return. The closest form of true love is parental love. Innate in human nature, we always want something in return. Then I drew another conclusion where unconditional love doesn’t exactly exist. And let’s just categorize the rest as other forms of love.
At the top of the chain lies God’s love for us. Say there’s a hierarchy of true love, one without conditions. We basically almost always want something out of it. For example, when we do something for someone out of love, we usually do it with an expectation that they will reciprocate this favor or to gain their approval/ appreciation. Even if we do not actively agree or admit with it. In many instances, that is the case. I realized that love (the ones we usually give) are very much conditional and definitely laced with plenty of expectations. Thankfully, I managed to draw a conclusion about this after much contemplation. And don’t we hate injustice especially when it’s on us? The feeling of indignation usually isn’t a pretty one where a lot of injustice is cast upon. If you did it with expecting something in return then should you even give it in the first place? So it provoked me to further think about this. If you expect something in return then it means that this love that you are giving has its conditions. I have also got into a pretty heated argument with a previous friend of mine on unconditional love. And several times because of this, others will impose the expectation on me to continuously do it even if I’m tired or have other reasons why I am not doing it for that period of time.
Similar to the above explanation, when I actively do things for the people I love. I have a few personal experiences with my love/ loved ones that have caused enough to invoke this conflict in me. And it just doesn’t make sense anymore. If its not willing, then should it be something you’re even giving?
Like why exactly are you giving this in the first place at all? Initially, you are being nice but then when its imposed on and expected for you to be nice, you start to feel indignation. For example, doing something nice out of your own will for someone seems imposing when said person starts to expect more out of your niceness. What seems like ‘love’ morphs into something else. Well, for the benefit of the doubt, lets assume the truest and purest form of love to undertake the form of an unconditional one.īut for today, let’s examine an attempt of ‘love’. This truly questions the validity of love in itself.
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